MANAGING ANGER

I always seem to be “angry” at somebody or something. Sometimes I get violent. Why does this happen?
Anger is a basic emotion like love or happiness. How we express it is something we learn from our parents and others around us. The good new is, we can learn new ways to deal with situations that cause us to feel angry and express our anger constructively.

Last week I was in a line-up at the bank and I told off someone for butting in line. I do this often. Is there something I can do?

It takes work to affect something that has been a part of your life for many years. But it is possible! Try this five step approach next time you feel you want to express anger:

Admit it; say to yourself: “I am angry;" Examine it; explore “why am I angry”, is it something you did or didn’t do? Say it; talk about it, but only when you are calm, express your concern to the persons who “budded into line” when you can do it without blowing up; Leave it alone; once you have said it, try not to dwell on it; compliment yourself for not blowing up, and commit yourself to doing the same thing next time.

Other Resource Links

Angermgmt.com

Controlling Anger -- Before it Controls You